As someone who’s never had any opportunity to date or make out (yes, totally ashamed of myself), I’ve always assumed that ALL the other men in the world who were getting laid were instinctively gifted in entertaining their women sexually. That even the ONSes were prefaced with a minimum of 30 min of foreplay + oral and carefully choreographed penetration that sent multiple waves of orgasms in the woman. And how the activity supposedly ended with the couples gazing into each other’s eyes while the man stroked the woman’s hair, appreciating their mutual company and readying themselves for the next round as the oxytocin sealed their mutual affection. My other assumption was that all men were listening to their woman and responding in kind.
So I’ve been totally surprised to read about men who are clueless about sex even though they’re getting so many opportunities and there are multitudes of articles and podcasts about how to pleasure a woman with a head to toe work up.